Back from exile . . .

[cyfishy]

My fleshy self was finishing up a novel in November, so time inworld was limited.

Miles is back inworld a little more frequently, but we won't be seeing each other in RL for I don't know how long. Not terribly important at this juncture.

Things have taken an interesting turn with the alt.


I proposed. And she accepted.

I gave her a little ring I'd made with a DIY kit I'd bought.

We danced together at Quantum, to celebrate.

It is a strange, strange thing. And yet wonderful.

I understand the appeal. There is something quite delightful about looking at your profile and seeing that little space with a name in it. Even one that, technically, belongs to yourself.

I suppose to an outsider, it might seem a little weird and self-absorbed. But considering the way my last SL relationship tore me asunder when it ended (I've only spoken of it in veiled terms because it also had a RL component, and I truly do not want this person's name dragged through the mud as "the one who broke CyFishy's heart") perhaps this just what I need to be doing. Instead of waiting for someone to give me what I seek, I can give it to myself.

Now all I have to do is clean up my machine so I can run two viewers with a little less strain . . . ;)

Comments

Not surprising, or weird

[caliburnsusanto.livejournal.com]

I do this, as Primary Me and Alternate Me can simultaneously exist quite easily. However, I would never put myself as my own partner, for the simple reason it would discourage others from introducing themselves. However, I don't think it's weird.

I could comment, but as usual Argent can (and has) said it much better than I could.

So, congratulations! :-D

(strange the paths this new venue leads us down, is it not?)

Re: Not surprising, or weird

[cyfishy.livejournal.com]

Strange indeed.

I can understand wanting to leave the partnership slot open for another person to fill, and thought about that myself, but I ultimately decided that I'd be better off with someone I could trust utterly in that spot, having seen so much heartbreak in the coupling and de-coupling of my friends and acquaintances.

If there winds up being breakup drama in this relationship, I really am in trouble!

Oh no, you mistook my meaning ...

[caliburnsusanto.livejournal.com]

I don't want anyone to fill it, I just don't want its being filled to discourage profile readers. "Well, he's hitched, so there's no hope for me" is pretty much the mindset among the less bold to encounter.

I think your journey is pretty cool. Glad you decided to post about it.

I can see that . . .

[cyfishy.livejournal.com]

"Well, he's hitched, so there's no hope for me" is pretty much the mindset among the less bold to encounter.

I kinda figured that's what you meant, but I got off on a tangent in my reply. In my own case, it's sort of the opposite for me--if somebody is only going to talk to me if there is 'hope' of hooking up, I'm not so sure it's that much of a loss to me of they won't. But that's just me--we're obviously coming to SL with different perspectives in terms of what we're seeking and there's nothing wrong with either way of looking at it.